True Self & Purpose
Stop the Bullshit.
Start Living Authentically.
Look, we've all been there — chasing the next big thing, trying to fit into some mold, pretending to be someone we're not.
Society's got this toxic script: "Achieve this, look like that, buy this, then you'll be happy." Bullshit, right?
Here’s the brutal truth:
"A life spent trying to be someone else's idea of success
is a life half-lived."
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Introducing...
An online 15-week Small-Group Therapeutic Coaching Program, custom-made for those brave individuals ready to embark on the journey of a lifetime. This isn't just another fluffy course with motivational mumbo-jumbo. This is about tearing down the facade and discovering the genuine, unfiltered YOU.
Why Should You Care?
- Real Connection: Authenticity is the key to forming deeper, more meaningful relationships. You can't truly connect if you're wearing a mask.
- Lasting Fulfillment: Chasing society's idea of success? It's an endless treadmill. Discovering YOUR purpose? That's where real satisfaction lies.
- Bullshit-Free Living: Let's cut the crap. Live with clarity, purpose, and intention.
A Note from David:
"I've seen countless individuals, from all walks of life, wear masks that society hands them. But beneath those masks, there's a burning desire to be real, to be seen, to be understood. This program is the bridge between the life you're told to want and the life you truly desire. Dive in, tear off the bullshit, and discover your true self and life purpose."
The Gaping Void of Inauthenticity
1. The Relentless Hamster Wheel
You wake up, you work, you pay bills, you sleep. Rinse and repeat. There's this nagging belief that if you just get that promotion, buy that car, or move to that posh neighborhood, you'll feel fulfilled. Spoiler: You won't. Because you're running in circles, chasing mirages, striving for things that someone else said you should want. It’s like being on a never-ending treadmill that's going nowhere fast.
2. The Great Pretend Game
You've mastered the art of pretense. Smile at the right times, say the right things, hang out with the "right" crowd. But beneath that veneer, there's a part of you screaming for significance, craving to be seen and heard for who you truly are. Problem is, you've been playing this role so long, you're not even sure who that is anymore.
2. The Great Pretend Game
You've mastered the art of pretense. Smile at the right times, say the right things, hang out with the "right" crowd. But beneath that veneer, there's a part of you screaming for significance, craving to be seen and heard for who you truly are. Problem is, you've been playing this role so long, you're not even sure who that is anymore.
3. The Fear of the Void
What happens if you hit the brakes? What if you refuse to play by the rules, say 'fuck it' to societal expectations? There’s this paralyzing fear that if you stop doing what you "should" be doing, you'll be left staring at an overwhelming void, clueless and lost.
4. The Weight of Judgment
The constant external noise is deafening. "Be more successful. Be stronger. Be cooler." And god forbid you falter, because then you're branded a "failure" or a "loser." This fear of judgment forces many men into a confined box, blocking out their true selves.
4. The Weight of Judgment
The constant external noise is deafening. "Be more successful. Be stronger. Be cooler." And god forbid you falter, because then you're branded a "failure" or a "loser." This fear of judgment forces many men into a confined box, blocking out their true selves.
5. The Loneliness of Inauthenticity
Here's a gut-punch: Many people feel deeply, achingly alone. Because when you're not being your true self, even when you're surrounded by people, you're still isolated. It's like being at a party with hundreds of people but feeling utterly invisible.
The Real Deal: These pain points aren't just discomforts. They're existential threats, slowly eroding the fabric of who you are.
But here's the deal: acknowledging them is half the battle.
The next step? Ditching the script, tearing off the mask, and diving into the wild, messy journey of self-discovery. It’s a rocky road, no doubt.
But at the end of it? That’s where you find gold: your true self and your authentic purpose.
It's time to stop living someone else's dream.
Discover your authentic self. Find your true purpose.
Let's fucking do this.
The Inauthentic Script
Let's be brutally honest here: Modern society has handed you a script, hasn't it? From the time you could walk and talk, you've been told who to be, what to wear, which job to chase, and how to behave.
Fast forward to today, and you’re stuck in this endless loop, waking up each day living someone else's life. It's like you're in a play, and you don't even realize you're acting. You're playing roles: the successful businessman, the loyal friend, the provider. But strip away the costumes, the props, the scripted lines... and who the hell are you?
You're not alone. Countless people wake up one day, look in the mirror, and think, "Who is this person? Is this really me?" They're trapped in a maze of societal expectations, too afraid of being called a "loser" or "failure" if they veer off the marked path.
Tear Off the Mask
The most painful thing about wearing a mask for so long is that you start to forget there's a real, raw, authentic face underneath it.
The mask becomes comfortable. It's scary to take it off because what if the real you isn't enough? What if you're rejected, ridiculed, or dismissed?
But here's the kicker: That fear? It's just another line from the bullshit script you've been handed.
To discover your true self, to truly understand your life purpose, you need to have the courage to tear off the mask, to stop acting and start living. It's time to question, to challenge, to rebel against the story you've been fed.
Dive Deep into Being Real with
"True Self & Purpose: Discovering Your Authentic Life"
This isn't about a quick fix or a magical epiphany. Discovering your true self and your life's purpose is a journey, a challenging yet rewarding one. Our 15-week program offers you the tools, the community, and the framework to embark on this transformative quest.
Instead of trying to "fit in," how about fitting into your own skin? With our small-group sessions, raw conversations, and guided exercises, you'll uncover layers of yourself you didn’t even know existed. Say goodbye to living as a false version of yourself.
With every week, every challenge, every shared story, you'll move closer to the person you've always been deep down: unfiltered, undiluted, genuine.
It's a bold step, tearing up the script, ditching the mask. But on the other side? That's where real freedom lives. That's where YOU can live.
Join us. Rediscover yourself. Rewrite your story.
Here's What Others Have Said About
Group Coaching With David Tian:
" Through this small-group coaching experience with Dr. Tian, I was able to establish stronger bond with my parts, primarily through triggers that happened during group sessions. I found myself better able to speak for my parts (often nervous and anxious parts) instead of blending with them. I’ve learned to be more assertive, calmly dealing with situations where I used to get angry or aggressive, especially with my family."
Dan F., USA
" In just 15 weeks, I’ve become more calm, clear, and confident in myself now because of David’s coaching group. Basically that programming I got from childhood has cleared itself and I can be more of my true self. So this has helped me also be more calm around women and people in general, I’m able to see things with a higher mature perspective now in social settings (for the most part), and I’m in more of a flow state."
Paul S., Canada
" After 4 months in David’s coaching group, I’ve developed a higher self-awareness and am a lot more in touch with my emotions. I feel like this has been a game changer for me because by being more self aware, it gives me clarity and understanding of myself and my parts - which gives me confidence and calmness that I’m able to hold space for myself emotionally, especially when I get triggered in certain situations. I’m able to ride the emotional wave and intensity without 'losing myself' in the moment. Plus, it’s helped me get more in touch with my feelings, so I can understand myself more and know how to navigate the situation just by being present with my feelings and noticing what’s there."
Benjamin T., UK
" David’s coaching group gave me the tools to tap into my true higher self more consistently, which has led to a higher self-awareness and I feel more in touch with myself. And I understand how to conduct myself in a way that’s more effective and skillful in getting what I want. I also feel like the way David coaches is so that we can trust our own higher selves to get the answers and perspectives we’re looking for in life, which i feel like is the ultimate superpower!"
William P., USA
Awakening to the Authentic Life
There's a version of you that's been dormant, buried beneath the weight of societal expectations, fear, and self-doubt. It's time to breathe life into that you and here's why:
“Break Free from the Monotony”
Imagine a world where your every action isn't driven by sheer willpower. No more dragging yourself out of bed, forcing that smile, or pushing through another mind-numbing day. Instead, you find an organic energy, a zest for life, powering your every move — be it at work, the gym, or while sipping your favorite drink.
“Break Free from the Monotony”
Imagine a world where your every action isn't driven by sheer willpower. No more dragging yourself out of bed, forcing that smile, or pushing through another mind-numbing day. Instead, you find an organic energy, a zest for life, powering your every move — be it at work, the gym, or while sipping your favorite drink.
“Discover the Fortress Within”
Dependency is a silent killer, one that strangles your sense of self. By understanding and embracing your true self, you build a fortress of emotional stability. No more looking outward for validation; your happiness and strength are cultivated from deep within.
“Discover the Fortress Within”
Dependency is a silent killer, one that strangles your sense of self. By understanding and embracing your true self, you build a fortress of emotional stability. No more looking outward for validation; your happiness and strength are cultivated from deep within.
“Unshakeable Self-Love and Acceptance”
Build a core so strong that no external force can shake it. With the understanding of your true self comes an unwavering foundation of self-love and acceptance. It's a love affair that will last a lifetime, with the most important person: yourself.
“Unshakeable Self-Love and Acceptance”
Build a core so strong that no external force can shake it. With the understanding of your true self comes an unwavering foundation of self-love and acceptance. It's a love affair that will last a lifetime, with the most important person: yourself.
“Earned Esteem, Simply By Being”
Say goodbye to the endless race for approval and recognition. When you're in sync with your authentic self, self-worth doesn't come from accolades or compliments; it emanates naturally from just being you.
“Earned Esteem, Simply By Being”
Say goodbye to the endless race for approval and recognition. When you're in sync with your authentic self, self-worth doesn't come from accolades or compliments; it emanates naturally from just being you.
“Craft a Joy-Filled Journey”
Life isn't about fleeting moments of happiness. It's about stringing together experiences that resonate with your soul. When you know your true self, you identify the activities that truly light up your world, ensuring every day is filled with genuine joy.
“Healing from the Inside Out”
Those unconscious wounds, the scars you’ve been unknowingly carrying? Delving deep into your true self will initiate a healing process, a journey towards unconditional self-love and acceptance. It’s about reconciling with the past to foster a brighter, healthier future.
“Unlock Your Natural Arsenal”
Deep within, you possess a toolkit of incredible traits: confidence, courage, compassion, creativity, and so much more. By tapping into your true self, you unleash this arsenal, guiding you in navigating life's myriad challenges with grace and resilience.
In essence, embracing your true self isn’t just about self-discovery. It’s about unleashing a higher, more vibrant version of life. It’s about ditching the script and improvising a masterpiece. Dive in. The authentic life awaits.
“Craft a Joy-Filled Journey”
Life isn't about fleeting moments of happiness. It's about stringing together experiences that resonate with your soul. When you know your true self, you identify the activities that truly light up your world, ensuring every day is filled with genuine joy.
“Healing from the Inside Out”
Those unconscious wounds, the scars you’ve been unknowingly carrying? Delving deep into your true self will initiate a healing process, a journey towards unconditional self-love and acceptance. It’s about reconciling with the past to foster a brighter, healthier future.
“Unlock Your Natural Arsenal”
Deep within, you possess a toolkit of incredible traits: confidence, courage, compassion, creativity, and so much more. By tapping into your true self, you unleash this arsenal, guiding you in navigating life's myriad challenges with grace and resilience.
Hey there, I'm David Tian.
Let’s cut the academic jargon and get straight to it. Yes, I’ve got a Ph.D., three Master’s degrees, and a whole bunch of fellowships from prestigious places like Harvard and Princeton. I've lived around the globe, from the bustling streets of Singapore, where I once nerded out as a university professor of philosophy, to the iconic halls of the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. But that’s just one side of the coin.
Here's the real deal: I've spent over 18 years getting up close and personal with the human psyche, crafting solutions that resonate whether you're in fast-paced Tokyo, romantic Paris, or the vast landscapes of America. From relationships and self-esteem to the intricate dance of masculinity, my therapeutic coaching isn't just about theory. It's about real, messy, beautiful human experiences.
For each person I work with, I custom mix a blend of the best approaches – everything from the trusty ol’ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to the edgier approaches of Tony Robbins-Cloe Madanes Life Coaching to my current fav: Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS), in which I’m Certified.
Why? Because one-size-fits-all is for socks, not souls. Tailoring these approaches, I've had the honor of guiding a mosaic of individuals from across the world. And nothing beats the buzz of seeing someone smash their personal goals or the tear-jerking joy when they tell me they're about to become proud parents.
So, whether you’re looking to transform, transcend, or just trying to figure shit out, know that I’ve been there, done that, and I’m here to guide, challenge, and cheer you on every step of the way.
Here’s What a Few Ambitious Individuals Have Said After Working With Me:
“I always saw a terrible person when I looked in the mirror, a failure of a person, someone that was disliked by everyone. Now whenever I look in the mirror I love the person I see, just the way he is. My social anxiety is now completely gone and I have a huge amount of self confidence.”
- J. van der Werf, Netherlands
“I have grown so much more present and reassured about myself. Other people have taken notice of this and I’m seeing many positive changes in my dating, social and work life. I’m much more comfortable around attractive women, can enjoy myself better in social circles, and have taken on bigger leadership roles in work.”
- Ben Z., USA
“I’m beginning to feel more like my true self more consistently throughout the week. I feel good, I feel happy, content, able to express my truth without much fear of how others will judge me. I feel free. Thank you. You’re fucking awesome!”
- Sebastian D., Canada
“It’s been a blessing for me and my family to have come across you and your team. Your down to earth way of explaining what men go through and understanding the finer points of change that needs to be made in my life has been huge. I can honestly say from the bottom of my heart this single dad is a changed man. Thanks heaps. God bless.”
- Andrew B., USA
I’m grateful for having been able to help all these people live happier and more fulfilling lives.
Who is the “True Self & Purpose” Program For?
It's not for the person who’s got everything figured out, who wakes up with rainbows shooting out of his backside because every day is just that magical. Nah, this is for the rest of us.
If you’ve built your life wearing masks, trying to mold yourself into what everyone else thinks you should be, just to avoid the dread of being labeled a 'loser' — yup, this program is calling your name.
And for those who have climbed the ladder of success, stood on the top rung, and felt that sinking feeling of, "Is this it? Really?" — I'm looking straight at you.
If you're basically mimicking the so-called successful people around you, just to fit in, but deep down you're screaming, "What the hell am I doing with my life?", then pull up a chair. This is for you.
Maybe you're killing it in the career game but feel emptier than a beer keg after a frat party. Guess what? You're in the right place too.
This program isn’t about finding the ‘easy’ button or hacking your way to a facade of happiness. It’s about ripping off the duct tape you've slapped on your life and digging into the authentic, messy, beautiful journey of finding out who the hell you really are and what you genuinely want. Because, let's face it, waking up jazzed for the day ahead? That's the kind of success that counts.
Why the Small Group Format?
Imagine you’re in a room with a supportive group of strangers sharing the deepest, darkest stuff that’s been burdening you.
Now, the magic isn’t just in the sharing; it’s in how everyone in that room reacts to you, and how you react to them. The way you interact? It’s a mini-version, a freakin’ “microcosm”, of how you play out your life drama in the big, wild world out there.
So here’s why this group thing is the bomb:
- Real-time BS Detector: Say something dumb, smart, sad, whatever – the group’s gonna let you know what’s up. Right then, right there. Real-time reactions to real-time you. No room for self-delusion here. If you’re being a jerk or a pushover, either way, someone’s going to call you out, for your own benefit.
- Playground for Grown-Ups: Remember when you were a kid and tried on different roles to see what you were good at? Small-group coaching is like that, but for your personality. Don’t know if you can stand up for yourself? Give it a whirl in the group and see how it feels.
- Deja Vu & Do-Over: Ever wish you could go back in time and face that bully or tell that ex what you really felt? Well, small-group coaching won’t time travel, but it’ll give you a chance to replay some of those crappy situations from your past, but with a twist. This time, you get to change the ending and be stronger from it.
- Learn by Watching: You know when you see someone do something dumb and think, “I’ll never do that!“? Or when someone nails it and you go, “I wanna be like that!“? Small-group coaching is full of these moments. Just watching someone else’s drama unfold and seeing how the group responds can be as enlightening as being in the hot seat yourself.
Here’s What You Get:
Weekly Small-Group Coaching
Sessions Live Online
Every week, for a full 90 minutes, you're going to experience life-altering coaching in an intimate community. Yeah, none of the lost-in-the-crowd bullshit. We’re talking a tight-knit group capped at 9 badass individuals, including you. There are only two groups available. So choose wisely:
1:1 Personal Coaching in a Group
Look, webinars and digital courses are great and all, but let's face it, sometimes you need someone to cut through the noise and give it to you straight. With the "True Self & Purpose" program, that’s precisely what you’re getting. Forget generic, one-size-fits-all advice; for 15 glorious weeks, you'll have me, Dr. Tian, in your corner, giving you that personalized 1:1 coaching smackdown. It's like having a personal trainer for your psyche. And the cherry on top? While I'm coaching you, you get to soak up the experiences and breakthroughs of others in the group. Think of it as group therapy on steroids. The more brains, the more aha-moments. So let's dive deep, challenge assumptions, and grow
The Power of the Group
Small-group therapeutic coaching is like life’s rehearsal room. You get to try, fail, learn, redo, and get better – with an audience who’s rooting for you (even when they’re calling you out). So why go solo when you can get more bang for your therapeutic buck by taking advantage of the power of the group dynamics?
Private Group Chat Online
The journey to discovering your "True Self & Purpose" isn’t a once-a-week kinda deal. It’s a 24/7, in-the-trenches, raw-and-real hustle. That's why I've thrown in this badass feature: a private online group chat. Think of it as your pocket-sized lifeline to yours truly, Dr. Tian, and the rest of the gang. Middle of the night existential crisis? Got a burning question on a Tuesday afternoon? Or maybe you just nailed a personal breakthrough and wanna shout it from the virtual rooftops? This chat's got you covered. It's like having a crew of close friends, all on the same crazy ride, right in your back pocket. And the best part? We're all here to lift each other up. So, vent, share, ask, answer, and let's make this journey a team effort.
Here's some extra dynamite to
supercharge your journey!
TRUE SELF: Bonus Course #1
(Worth $850+)
This audio-visual online course has four modules. Just four, and you'll dive headfirst into the meat of who you truly are. We’re talking confidence on steroids, sky-high self-worth, and letting that kickass personality of yours dominate the room.
Been shackled by crappy feelings of insecurity, past trauma, or shame? Kiss them goodbye.
Toss in some bleeding-edge findings from psychology and neuroscience, and you've got the cheat codes to reboot that brain of yours.
It's about damn time you lived as the rockstar you were meant to be.
PURPOSE: Bonus Course #2
(Worth $750+)
Another four-module audio-visual course packed with wisdom. Forget about chasing dreams based on grit and grind alone. Here, you’ll crack the code to living large, and it won’t even require a drop of that old-school willpower. Science-backed? Hell yes. Discover how the big brains in psychology and neuroscience have mapped out the blueprint to uncover your life’s purpose.
A lot of folks are out there think joy comes after hitting some big payday or finding their dream partner. Bullshit alert! Why wait for some far-off milestone to feel alive? Dive deep, find your purpose, and ride that wave of happiness now.
Here’s What Others Have Shared About Their Group Coaching Experience:
“ I would 100% recommend people join if they’re on the fence about it. Before I joined, I was hopeful that this coaching group would help, but another part of me was also like “shit, will this actually work for ME?” - I thought it through several times, and decided to take the leap of faith. I knew there was a lot I could learn about myself and my psychology, my inner conflicts, my behavioral patterns through this coaching - and now I have become aware. The coaching group delivered what I needed, even when the answers weren’t what I expected them to be, which in itself was therapeutic, to finally have clarity on how to let go of the baggage and confusion and running in circles with myself. 15 weeks ago, I knew that there was no way I was going to spend another 15 weeks of my life stuck in my own victim mentality and BS stories - I had to do something or just lose another 15 weeks of my life being miserable, scared, and confused. So joining this program has helped me regain clarity and perspective on myself, and help me take back my personal power and empower myself to make decisions for myself and feel confident in my decisions!”
- Simon L., USA
“ I think Dr. Tian has the gift of being extremely effective with his assessments and his approach. I also think more people need to have access to skillful and gifted therapists because I think most people don’t know or even remotely understand what a good therapy session should feel like or look like. For the longest time, I had the misconception that therapy is just where a professional gives us the time and space to be heard and somewhat empathise with you while talking out our issues. BUT, from the group coaching experience it is abundantly clear to me that not only the soft approach is required but also knowing when to be firm and to push the client when necessary. Also, having a strong intellectual context to give a deep understanding of the disempowering false beliefs that we have been carrying for so long so that we can come out of the session with an updated perspective closer to the reality/truth. This is what I think was missing from my past experiences with 1:1 therapy. Through this group coaching experience with David, I came out with a new, empowering perspective and a higher, deeper understanding of myself.”
- Noah A., Singapore
“ This group coaching experience with David has exceeded my expectations! I liked how the group was quite small, which made things more intimate and gave each of us a chance to go deep into the issues we wanted to resolve. Thank you very much for the experience, David, it was great!"
- Peter S., USA
“ I am genuinely surprised (in a good way) with what has unfold with the group coaching. I have worked with 5 different therapists in the past but none of them has given the level of emotional depth and intellectual understanding like this group coaching experience with Dr. Tian. Also, the feeling of inclusion that I got through the group coaching experience, of feeling heard and seen by the group was so important for so many of my parts.”
- John N., Australia
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